Many of us [all of us?] have experienced a time when we want to change what we are doing but don’t seem to be able to change our behaviors or thoughts. It can feel like our brain’s are working against us…therefore the question of “whose side our brain’s are on.”  So what is up with…

I think that the joke ends with “just one, but the lightbulb really has to want to change.”  Get it?  I actually do not recall what the joke was supposed to be.  I recall it now because I believe that it contains an important truth.  When we are offering our medical skills to help another…

So where does the saying “ignorance is bliss” come from? The internet tells me that it comes from Thomas Gray’s poem “On A Distant Prospect on Eton College” with the line stating: “Where ignorance is bliss / tis folly to be wise.”  Now, ignorance means a lack of knowledge, eduction or awareness. [Merriam-Webster]. One implication…

So what is wrong with enabling others? What is enabling others? In my experience with my patients, enabling seems to be when someone takes on responsibility for others and this then makes it easier for [enables] them to avoid being responsible for themselves. The contexts for what is considered enabling is important as I have…

Is it fair or reasonable to judge what we do or say by the standard of whether or not it was based on love for the other?  How would that work?  Would we be able to say anything? Maybe the problem is the definition of love.  Love is…”an intense feeling of affection, fondness, tenderness, attachment,…

Regarding our relationship to God, I have often wondered about what we ask for and why we seem to ask for what we already have, or at least are freely given.  I first thought about this when I became aware of how often Christian religions encourage their congregations to say prayers that ask for things that…

I thought about this old saying recently in light of recent events that have caused a lot of people to feel anxious when watching or listening to the news.  I try to help people who come to me to let go of their worries about things that they hear on the news and often will…

Over and over I witness people who come to me for help, struggling with stress that they can’t stop or even limit.  They feel controlled by the stress that is usually in the form of worries and fears that they think about over and over.  They have frequently been diagnosed as having an obsessive compulsive…

It is clear that stress can lead to many types of physical symptoms. It seems that some of the physical symptoms we have are related to past physical symptoms we had that did not appear to be caused by stress. I wonder if the brain thinks that a new situation that we react to in…

Which one did you vote for [cooperation or competition]? Or is that silly as we need both to live healthy and happy lives? Is some competition ok and other kinds not ok? Is cooperation always better?  Which one brings people together?  Which one recognizes individual effort?  Which one gives you winners [and losers]?  Which one…