I Like You Just the Way You Are

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I heard an interview on National Public Radio that aired March 11, 2016 [StoryCore.org] with Francois Clemmons.  Clemmons had been on “Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood” for many years and he was the first African American to have a recurring role on a children’s TV show.  He shared that one day after hearing Mr. Roger’s say something…

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Is It Time to Stop Being Nice?

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Recently a number of my patients wondered if they were being too nice to some of their friends or family members. So what is too nice?  For that matter, what is nice? In exploring this further, it seems that being too nice is often connected to doing things for others that is really their responsibility…

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You’ll Be in My Heart

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For some reason I listened to Phil Collins singing “You’ll Be in My Heart” from the Tarzan movie.  After I listened to it I realized that I was singing to myself “I’ll be in your heart.” It seemed like a big difference and I wondered why I was doing this.  I will often follow my…

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To Keep Things From Getting Worse

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My patients have made it clear to me how important their feeling responsible for others is in maintaining PTSD symptoms. It seems that taking responsibility for others develops as a way of coping with abuse.  It makes sense in that people who are being abused are not being protected by adults around them and therefore…

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Can We Be Too Empathic?

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Recently one of my patients said that they were being “too empathic.”  She was referring to being understanding of others even when it was stressful for her. She did not feel it was right to not say something or not encourage the others. In exploring this further, it seems that she was making excuses for…

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Similarities Between Young Children and Dogs

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I have been seeing similarities between young children and dogs.  This started after I had a number of patients talk about the benefits of owning dogs and how their dogs help them to feel calm and peaceful.  Some of my patients have used their dogs as “comfort” animals [like a “service” dog] and they tell…

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Is Letting Go Ever Withdrawing?

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My daughter and I just had a discussion about whether letting go is ever achieved by withdrawing from someone and giving up trying to help someone.  My daughter was sad to think that a solution to feeling responsible for others could be eliminating them from your life.  She felt that this would then seem to…

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Adult Adhd…fact or Fiction?

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There has been controversy whether adults can have ADHD/ADD.  There is also some support for children outgrowing their ADHD/ADD and therefore not having the diagnosis as adults.  There is also a question raised about the possibility of the onset of ADHD/ADD as an adult.   I have assessed a number of adults who were not…

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New Suicide Data

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An article in the June, 2016 Clinical Psychiatry News by Howard S. Sudak, M.D. [Commentary New suicide data: Reason to panic or ponder?] discusses new suicide data from the CDC’s National Center for Health Statistics indicating a 63% increase in U.S. deaths by suicide for females and a 43% increase for males equaling a national…

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